Monday, March 3, 2014
I keep pondering on my one word for this year....COURAGE.
It's helping me be bolder in what I think about, want to discuss, changes in my life, want to do....but it's also a bit challenging, because maybe I'm feeling small...maybe I want to climb back into bed for the day...and eat or cry........but then that's why this word is good.
I want to keep it at the fore front of my life like a banner that moves me forward.
SO...... Fresh courage take.....
Sound of Music has finally begun. I love being "just a nun" in the show. Sister Berthe means No makeup or hair to worry about. I just show up, sing beautiful harmony, help tell a lovely story, do some Leisle costume changes, then it's over and I quickly change to come home. It's great. Mickey Larsen, our family friend, who plays Maria, is amazing. She is uber talented and I had no idea she could sing high soprano. It was great having the family come see preview so we could talk about the show and the people in it and discuss the high and lows of the production.
My Daddy-o is doing better and continues to convalesce at Orchard Cove. He is excited to "bust out of the joint" on Saturday and get back to his own chair and rural/farming tv station. He has decided not to drive any longer, which is a good thing. His feet aren't working too well. He will keep his car and we can drive him around in it. I took Laila and her two friends to do some service for Gpa and rub his feet with essential oils. They were okay with it, until we took off his socks and saw his swollen feet. They looked like water ballloons with hotdog toes...it was quite a shock. We all ended up laughing and .....gently rubbing his feet.
I am having pre teen daughter challenges. Laila has decided she doesn't need parenting or parents in the morning. She wants us to read scriptures with her at 7 and then just go back to bed. Stay out of her way while she gets dressed, eats and plays piano. She doesn't want to hear a reminder or a nag about what she should be doing. Well... she is funny, but this is my last chance to "nag" a 12 year old and I'm going to do it...with vigor!
Monson is dating Lexi Jewell-- his Michigan sweetheart. He is very devoted to her. He gave her a promise ring for Valentines. She has a job in Bountiful now and has moved into a house with 3 other girls in West Boutniful. She doesn't have a car, so he leaves our home early every morning to pick her up and get her to work...then one of us picks her up at 5 and she hangs out at our home til Monson is off work at 7. They spend a lot of time together....probably too much, and it will be good when Monson gets more on his plate besides just work from 2-7. Monson is the Priest Basketball coach. He really loves this. The team took 1st place in our stake with a double overitme, at the bucket shot for the win.... and are headed into region.
Tru is busy "finding" himself. He is at a crossroads in his life with so many things. The good news is he is starting a job at Golden West Credit Union. Money coming in will be good. He does make money here and there with his photoshop skills. He is very helpful around the house and sings and laughs a lot but didn't think he would be 23 and living at home still.
Add, Bre and Alfie have decided to move back to Utah. Their Florida Disney gig was temporary when they began it, and baby Alfie has extended their life there a few months. They will be home in May...who knows where they will live or what they will do for work or what is going to happen next for their darling family, but one thing I do know....they will move forward with Faith. Can't wait for more Alfie time! He is such a good mix of Addison and Bre.
Wayne is so good to me. He continues to amaze. He doesn't feel good lately, some intestinal something. He has low energy, is easily dizzy, so tired...yet he serves and lifts and helps and loves.
Sometimes I think I used to be more. More fun, more happy, more organized, more spiritual, more of everything and now I'm just not. I don't know if that's true, or if I just see things more realistically now. I wonder if I met myself today, if I would even like me.
Anyway....just mumbing away on my Monday
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
I had an acquaintance ask me the other day, when he found out I had a gay son who has a partner and children, "How do you reconcile your membership in the LDS church and the church's stand on gay marriage?"
Hmmmmmm?..... I told him, "I'm all about the love."
But I haven't been able to let it go.
Here's what I think.................The Lord knows us and doesn’t care if we are Heterosexual or Homosexual. It doesn’t matter to him one way or another. He loves and is aware of our strengths and weaknesses. It’s all good. Gay or Straight he still commands us all to marry someone of the opposite sex and have children. That is His loving mandate. But gay or straight, that is not going to happen for everyone.
Many of my friends and relatives who are homosexual, have done just this. They have found someone of the opposite sex to love and move through this life with. They have made and kept their temple covenants. Enjoying good sex lives. They are either open about it with their spouse or not. Many have made it work through this life and now beyond. Some have ended up in divorce but don't regret having a family and children. I love them for this courageous choice.
Many of my gay friends and relatives have chosen another path-- to have same sex relationships. They are moving forward in their lives with happiness and fighting the LGBT acceptance fight. Some are married (depending on the state or country) some want to be and cannot. I love them for this courageous choice.
I believe that governmentally defined marriage is different from what the Lord is saying should happen in His temples. We are a world wide church, not just a Utah or United States church.
But we have many more social problems concerning the treatment of LGBT people beyond the marriage debate and what side we are on.
I have seen too many people when they “come out” get kicked out, put out, shunned, commit suicide, start in on drugs and alcohol…anything to take their pain away. This makes me so sad. What is wrong with these families? What is wrong with the parents? Are you really a Christian when you respond this way? There is no shame in someone’s sexuality. Being Homosexual is nothing that we can “pray” away. It is what it is. I don’t know what it would be like to be gay in a heterosexual world. It would be difficult at best…so why do we make it harder for our brothers and sisters?
We have to stop making homosexual men and women feel so badly about themselves growing up in the LDS church. It is an orientation not a choice or even an addiction. There is so much mis-information out there. Sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of. Sexuality is also not just who we are. We are all Children of God. We should be able to have openly gay members in our quorums and womens groups—their sexuality was not a choice….. how we treat each other is a choice. Whether you are having sex or not doesn’t change your sexual orientation.
If we all loved like we are supposed to then we wouldn’t have to draw any lines. There would be no sides to be taken............but we are asked to take sides....so ....
I am going to stand on the side of unconditional love and acceptance. I am choosing to do unto others what I would have them do to me…. I plan on being empathetic and my mother’s heart tells me that is not wrong. I will not be the stimulus for another’s pain, suicide, or distancing from God. I believe that we can all be on the Lord’s side…... The Lord’s side is very large and has room for all who love.
Friday, February 21, 2014
Couples get away to St George with Farleys and Belnaps.
What a riot! We biked 3 days in a row, went to the home show to see our friend Calli Bingham's designs, played lots of games, watched some Olympics, ate the country club's Salmon salad and awesome Benja's Thai food and just had an all around good time. Oh, and we had our rhubarb pie, swigg cookies and drinks too. You can tell I was excited about the food. We played Pickleball and went on walks. Actually our version of Pickleball is "prickle relish" ball, because we make up our own rules but we had fun. We need these courts in Bountiful.
Home show tour. We only went to the million dollar ones.
We laugh a lot and tease each other but it's all good. We are a compatible bunch!! We will be back in April for our hundred mile bike ride.
Tuesday, February 18, 2014
On Presidents day, Laila decided to spend some brother time. She played basketball with Monson for maybe 20 minutes but it felt like forever--(she is not much for basketball), and did a photo shoot with Tru which took like forever but felt like 20 minutes --(she loves playing model). Tru dressed her up like singer Janelle Monae. They shot in the garage then Tru did his photo shop magic and this is the result.